BE THE LEADER
Posted by Barb | Posted in BEHAVIOR | Posted on 03-10-2009
One of the hardest things to do is to teach people. Dogs are easy. I find that the problem lies in the nature of us humans. We tend to want to fulfill our needs at any cost. We get set in our ways and find it difficult to change, even when change is the best thing we can do. We develop a belief system and are afraid to look at it’s flaws. We want a world that revolves around us and our needs. We are a selfish species.
When I really started learning about dogs and horses, I had to take a long hard look at myself. It was not a pretty sight. I was head strong, demanding, impatient, and selfish. I was easily frustrated and angered. I wanted love and affection to work because it made me happy to think it should. When my horses and dogs didn’t get the picture, I saw them as ungrateful. I was angry with them because they were not getting with my program.
Fortunately for my animals, I didn’t like the results of my selfishness, so I started to explore alternatives. I learned from good teachers and trainers, that to really love animals, you have to discard things about yourself that do not help you reach your goal. That goal for me was to have a working partner, not a robotic slave.
Do I still struggle with my issues? Of course. I’m human. I will always be challenged by my dogs to be a better dog, not a self centered human. This is what dogs have taught me. I cannot be a human before I am a dog for them.
In a dog’s world, the one that the canine respects, obeys, and follows is the one that holds the lead position. Dogs have no respect for the one that bribes, begs, pleads, asks, and is loving and affectionate only. Canines will not follow this person because in the canine world, they are weak, and would never hold a lead position. They have no confidence in them, so the person that chooses this direction first, is telling the dog they are not worthy to be listen to or followed.
Dog will also not follow emotionally unstable people. The person who is loving and playful one moment and angry the next. Happy when things are going well and miserable when they aren’t.
Leaders are calm and in control and consistently in that state of mind. They are not easily unraveled or knocked off center. Even humans (if we are not mentally ill) avoid people that are not acting normally. One of the best things my dogs have taught me is to consistently be in a leadership state of mind. They have helped me be a far happier and stable human being.
Being your dog’s leader is the best position you can take for your dog, because it is the most important thing to him. To love a dog is to lead a dog. Choosing to be a follower, because you think taking the lead is mean, is the mark of a human who is not interested in what is best for the dog.
Loving fulfills the human’s needs. Leading fulfills the dog’s needs. The proper order is to give leadership first, then love and affection last. If this is not to your liking, then you are more concerned about what makes you happy, then what makes your dog happy. I guarantee you if you address the needs of your dog to be a dog first, he will make you a very happy human.
You can’t fool dogs. You can’t pretend to lead. They will see right through it. If you are not a take charge sort of person, on your dog’s behalf learn to be. He will reward you with devotion, respect, good manners, and obedience.
A dog is an animal before he is who you want him to be. The animal is predator (stalks, hunts, runs down and kills prey) a carnivore, (eats whole animals raw) scavenger, ( looks for available food) and uses his teeth to eat, defend himself, his pack and his position.
The dog is a pack animal. He might be the leader or he may be one of the followers. He does not bolt and run away from the pack, or break the pack rules. His security and stability depends upon the rules, boundaries, and limits. The survival of the pack depends upon this order.
Lastly a dog is who you want him to be. If you choose him to be a guard dog, he will need to be trained, or his animal behavior will take over and you will have an unpredictable and dangerous dog. If what you want him to be is a devoted companion, you will need to address the pack animal in him first.
When people ask me, “Why is he doing that?’ I know they do not believe they own an animal/dog, but a special friend. The answer to “Why is he doing that?” is “Because he’s an animal and a dog.”
WALKING YOUR DOG
One of the best things you can do for you and your dog is daily structured walks. If you have a very high energy dog, let him run off his excess energy in the yard, or chasing a ball for at least fifteen minutes before your walk. Other options for uses up excess energy is a treadmill, running next to a bike or scooter, retrieving a ball, or taking a good hard run with you on skates.
Always bring a “Can Do,” attitude to every training session. Leaders are calm and sure of themselves. They tell the followers what to do and how to do it. They never ask, suggest, offer options, or give in. If you want quick and good results from your efforts, being the authority figure in your dogs life is the only way this will happen.
1. Use proper training equipment. The right tool for the job is a training collar, not a buckle collar. Always call a dog to you, do not go to him. Have him come to the collar and leash. This establishes that you are in charge. Always have access to your dog. This mean have him on leash.
2. Do not allow him to pull (lead) you out the door or gate. Insist he wait calmly behind you, for permission to follow. This training session takes time, so don’t be in a rush.
3. Walk calmly, tall and confident. Be relaxed.
4. When you get home, make sure he waits to be invited back into your home. Do not let him lead you through the door.
Above all bring patience to every training session and a stick to it attitude. If you tend to fold when faced with the littlest challenge, your dog test you at every turn.
Dogs are not born trained, so how good or bad of a job you do, is how well the dog will turn out. The first step to becoming a good dog owner and trainer, is to take responsibility for the outcome.
DOORS AND GATES
Never allow your dog to exit doors and gates before you. He should wait calmly behind you for permission to go along. There are two ways to accomplish this that work really well. One is to block him with your leg or body from getting ahead of you. The other is to let him make the mistake of getting ahead of you. When he does turn and go back away from the door or gate. This puts him behind you and brings him back into the house or yard. A few sessions of this and he will get the big picture; Do not lead me anywhere, but especially out doors and gates.
RIDING IN THE CAR
Insist that your dog follow you to the car. If he is not on a leash to start with, you will fail to teach him proper behavior, because you are not in a position to control the situation.
Have him wait and be calm, then tell him to get in the car. He should not be in the front seat. He should ride in the back. It is not safe for a dog to ride loose or in the front seat. A seat belt made especially for dogs can be bought to secure him there. If you love your dog, seat belt him in or crate him. If you love your family, keep a dog where he belongs in the car. Climbing all over them and running from window to window barking is unpleasant and thoughtless. It’s also very dangerous. A dog can block mirrors, bump into you, or distract you from the job of driving. A dog can kill people if an accident occurs and they slam into them.
FEEDING YOUR DOG
Have your dog wait quietly while the food is being prepared. A dog should be waiting at a respectful distance. Three to four feet is good. If he comes too close, move towards him with your hand held out in front of you, and wait for him to move away from the food and again wait calmly. Only when he is calm will you put the food on the floor. He must wait for permission to eat it. If he moves towards the bowl step in front of it, move towards him, and wait until he becomes calm. Only then do you give him permission to eat. If you have more than one dog each dog must be calm and waiting for permission to eat.
Never allow a dog to leave his dish and go to another. Not only is this unfair to the other members of your pack, but it establishes dominance over the other members, and can well lead to disputes. Eating should be a peaceful and quiet time.
GIVING TREATS
Giving treat is a great time to establish the right order of things. In order for a dog to get a treat or affection from you, he must do something first. Sitting, downing, getting his collar or leash on, coming when called, are good times to share affection and reward with a treat.
Don’t overfeed your dog. Measuring out a small amount of treats and subtracting the amount from regular meals will insure that the dog gets good nutrition and the correct amount of calories to stay fit and healthy.
GOOD GREETING MANNERS
Dogs who understand their position as follower never jump up on their leaders. Jumping up is bad manners in our world, but from a dog’s understanding it’s disrespectful. Dogs give each other space. Only pack leaders need not get permission to touch, so a dog that bumps into you, jumps on you, or sits on you is sending you a message. You can pretend it’s about love and affection or see it for what it truly is.
Never encourage this behavior by getting a dog all excited, or allowing other to do so. When coming home, walk quietly into the house, and do not touch, talk to, or look the dog in the eye. Once he is calm, call him to you for a proper greeting. One where all four feet are on the ground and the dog is calm.
Whenever you want a dog to touch you, or get into your lap, give him permission to do so. If he does it on his own, discourage it by standing up, moving forward and holding your ground. Dogs understand this strong body language, and will quickly get the message.
HUMAN EMOTION
Never let emotion control your decision making. Anger is never a good energy around dogs. Anger comes from unreasonable expectations. Never forget you are dealing with a dog who is a creature of action not thought. He will never spend one moment considering the results of his actions, or feel any guilt about it. He will never wake up in the morning and decide to make your day the worst ever.
Dogs are also amazing at forgetting mistakes, as long as the mistakes do not become patterns of behavior. If you make a mistake with your dog, don’t beat yourself up about it. Just make a note to break that response and put a good one in it’s place.
Lastly; If a behavior does not start to diminish, you are not correctly addressing the problem. Any time you feel overwhelmed or in a destructive cycle you can’t think your way out of, get professional help. It’s always good to get a fresh look and a better direction to go in.
STEP UP
I am often disappointed in how people receive information about dogs and how to raise a well behaved and obedient companion. They are certain that professional dog folk do not know their dog and how different he is from the others. They spend a lot of time making excuses and trying to convince themselves that what they want is what will work in time. The problem with this sort of belief system is the dog receives all the blame, anger, and disappointment from his deluded owners. The fact that millions of dogs end up at the pound or in rescue shelters says volumes about our selfish nature. Many dogs face certain doom simply because people did not want to see them as dogs.
You have a choice to become a better human and dog owner, so step up and take charge of your life and your dog.




SCENT DISCRIMINATION
